Peace with oneself is the first step in peace with others
Peace is not just absence of war. It has wider concepts and includes the following:
Friendship, peace, cooperation, tolerance, coexistence, solidarity, participation, beauty, freedom, liberation, joy, vitality, dialogue, communication, respect the rights of others, acceptance of differences, respect for others, and so on.
Also the war is not just absence of peace. It has Broad concept that includes the following meanings: hostility, competition, violence, selfishness, jealousy, prejudice, exploitation, injustice, oppression, tyranny, oppression, domination. Reaching peace requires a precondition that paves its way:
Peace is something that should be taught and achieving peace is possible through education for all human beings.
Peace should be taught to children from childhood. Psychology and Educational Sciences Research shows that early childhood educational is done easier, deeper and faster.
Peace in the world begins in oneself. You should start peace in you. Peace or inner peace is a condition for peace with others.
Peace with oneself is difficult, but possible and it is necessary to go through the following steps:
1. Self-knowledge or self-awareness
The first step of peace with others is peace with yourself that from the perspective of psychology has three basic components:
o feelings or emotions
Thoughts shape our emotions and our emotions shape our behavior. The first step of peace with yourself, is knowing its three main sections. Understanding the errors, and to correct them is essential in thought process. The most important cognitive errors include the following:
o generalizations or overall judgment
o negativity or stressing the negative aspects of phenomena
o identify or blame oneself in all events and occasions
o projection or blaming others as guilty for all events and occasions
o magnification or exaggeration of the reality and events
o show the reality and events as minor points
o suspicion or paranoia to all human beings, and, predict or analyze events without logical analysis and investigation
o denying or not to see the reality rather than reviewing them
Excitements or emotional are inner states that arise from our thoughts. Recognizing the excitements or emotions, accurate expression of them and therefore managing them, establishes an emotional balance that shapes our behavior.
Behavior is our practical reactions against events. Behaviors can be categorized as follows:
o aggressive behavior that is associated with anger.
o passive behaviors that are associated with indifference and negligence.
o aggressive behavior - Passive associated with irony and ridicule.
o decisive behavior that is associated with firmness and kindness.
o appropriate behavior, firm behavior that must be learned.
2.) The second step is learning the ability to communicate effectively and appropriately with others is the second step of peace with yourself. Human being is a social beings, and without this ability that is learnable, one cannot be peaceful with others behavior.
3. Learning the problem solving issues of life problems is always with some problems that is obligatory. Therefore, we should not expect that there is no problem but one should find solution of the problem.
The three-step through the stages of thoughts, feelings, behavior, ability to communicate effectively and appropriately with others and with solving ability, makes the peace with oneself possible. It is necessary for peace with others.
Author: Dr, Ghasemzadeh